THE Long Island Intergroup
The Long Island ACA Intergroup, Inc. (LIACA) was formed on September 28, 2017, as a domestic not-for-profit corporation in the State of New York.
LIACA was formed to help bring the healing message of ACA to Long Island by coordinating helpline functions, public information efforts, hospitals and institutions meetings, and ACA events in a given area.
The Intergroup, is composed of members from the various ACA groups of Nassau and Suffolk counties. The LIACA is not currently a charitable organization under Section 501(c) 3 of the Internal Revenue Service Code.
Our Meetings & Work
The LIACA is in the process of defining its mission and methods. If you are interested in becoming a part of this or other exciting LIACA projects, send us an email so you can join the LIACA Slack channel.
We'd love to hear from you how the LIACA can be of service to your group.
LIACA email: INFO@LIACA.org
About Adult Children of Alcoholics®/Dysfunctional Families
Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition program of men and women who grew up in alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional homes. The ACA program was founded on the belief that family dysfunction is a disease that infected us as children and affects us as adults. Our membership also includes adults from homes where alcohol or drugs were not present; however, abuse, neglect or unhealthy behavior was.
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We meet to share our experience and recovery in an atmosphere of mutual respect. We discover how alcoholism and other family dysfunction affected us in the past and how it influences us in the present. We begin to see the unhealthy elements of our childhood. By practicing the Twelve Steps, focusing on the ACA Solution, and accepting a loving, Higher Power of our own understanding, we find freedom.
Why We First Came to ACA
Our decisions and answers to life did not seem to work. Our lives had become unmanageable. We exhausted all the ways we thought we could become happy. We often lost our creativity, our flexibility, and our sense of humor. Continuing the same existence was no longer an option. Nevertheless, we found it almost impossible to abandon the thought of being able to fix ourselves. Exhausted, we held out hope that a new relationship, a new job, or a move would be the cure, but it never was. We made the decision to seek help.
Why We "Keep Coming Back"
At the end of an ACA meeting, the group members encourage one another to "keep coming back" to meetings. Why? We found people in the meetings who listened to us talk. They did not judge us. They did not try to fix us. They did not interrupt us when we spoke. They merely told us that if we came to meetings on a regular basis, we would gradually begin to feel better. We did.
For The Newcomer
How We Work a Program of Recovery
Individuals recover at their own pace. We have learned by experience that those ACA members who make the greatest gains in the shortest amount of time are using the tools of recovery.
Tools of ACA Recovery
We go to meetings, and call program people to discuss recovery issues.
We read ACA literature and learn about the experiences of others while gaining clarity on our own experiences.
We define and enforce our boundaries.
We identify the people, places and things that are healthy and useful to our lives today, and discard those that are not.
We reconnect with our Inner Child or True Self.
We work with a sponsor and build support networks.
We attend meetings that focus on issues upon which we need to work.
We give service in ACA.
Listening to others and ourselves share at meetings helps us in our recovery. Sharing at meetings sometimes helps us to focus, define and clarify our problems. We express our feelings. Talking out loud helps us to resolve some problems. We talk about our action plans to change our lives, or how well our current plan is working. At times we report our progress or victories. We often use meetings as a reality check on our overall program, comparing our current life in the program to our adult life before coming to the ACA program.
In the meetings we come to understand how our childhood experiences shape our attitudes, behavior, and choices today. We hear others talk about their experiences, and we recognize ourselves. We learn how we can change. We sense that within ourselves are people who are not who we were taught to be. Some people call these our "inner children." We discover ourselves.
We read literature about ACA issues, often using the literature as life rafts. We hang on to what we have read when the seas get temporarily rough. Many of us write on a daily basis, finding that it helps us to put things into perspective for us. Some of us write to get in touch with our inner children. We write about our childhoods, daily thoughts, recurring struggles, and discoveries about life and ourselves. We write about new issues as they arise. We use ACA functions outside the meetings to learn spontaneity and how to have fun.
Gradually, we begin to recognize the negative parenting messages from our childhoods that drive our lives. We learn how to replace them with healthy behaviors. This is a first step toward "reparenting." As we gradually reparent our selves, our outlook on life changes. We begin to look at it from an emotionally mature perspective. Ultimately, we become happier, stronger, more capable people – more able to handle life. We learn to respect others and ourselves. The quality of our lives improves as we learn to define and communicate our boundaries, and insist that they be honored.
We have learned by experience that those ACA members who make the greatest gains in the shortest amount of time are those who use the "tools of recovery." We have also found that all of us recover at our own paces, and in our own time. We are individuals who come from varied experiences and backgrounds.
What We Do in ACA Meetings
We share what is happening in our lives, and how we are dealing with these issues in our recovery program. (i.e., share our experience, strength, and hope).
We build a personal support network.
We practice our recovery and personal boundaries by giving service.
What We Do Not Do at Meetings
We do not engage in crosstalk.
We do not criticize.
We do not comment on what others say.
We do not offer advice.
We do not distract others from the person speaking by word, whisper, gesture, noise, or movement.
We do not violate the anonymity of others.
We do not repeat what is said in meetings (in any context).
Group Literature Program
LIACA is pleased to offer member groups local, accessible and affordable ACA literature and merchandise through the Group Literature Program.
Groups are encouraged to purchase literature for resale at their meetings.
The LIACA offers all the books and merchandise listed on the ACA WSO website at the list price. Due to the cost of operating the Group Literature Program, no bulk discounts are offered.
Sales are available by appointment with these easy steps:
Contact the LIACA Literature Trusted Servant at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Fill out an order form.
Confirm a day/time to pick up the literature.
Pay by Cash, Check or Money Orders to “LIACA Intergroup”.
Arrange pick up, delivery or shipment via mail.
Help Support LIACA Literature Program!
All items will be sold at the list price appearing on the LIACA Literature Order Form. Due to the cost of operating the Literature Program, bulk discounts are not offered.
So that groups do not run out of literature, the LIACA offers payment plans, delivery/mailing to groups. Inquire via e-mail.
Proceeds from literature sales aid your intergroup in carrying the ACA message and funding the operational needs of the Literature Program, such as paying for the storage space and gas for deliveries.
Thank you for supporting your local Intergroup!!!